Client Stories: Bridging The Gap Between Work And Pleasure; Healing Limiting Beliefs that Sabotage Love

Do you hear the stories about how people literally TRANSFORM an area (or all) of their lives? Ever wonder if it’s bullshit? Is it really possible for someone to reset themselves like that? This is your opportunity to hear about regular, everyday women who have done it…some of the women I’ve worked with who have been able to reset their inner compass and are showing up day after day in a life that they love living.

Meet Kirsty, a 39 year old teacher, unable to shake a fear and anxiousness about her health and stuck in a job that her heart wasn’t in. Using my signature LBSR (Limiting Belief System Retrieval) process, Kirsty got very clear that not only was she no longer happy at work, but that her only motivation for staying was a fear of failure and financial insecurity. Really valid reasons for her to be so discerning about her next steps, and yet her body was suffering.

Her body was starting to hurt every time she worked, to the point that she was in great depths of pain and nothing was helping it. Using therapeutic techniques that created a staircase down into the psyche, Kirsty was finally able to unpack her belief systems around financial security and abundance and was able to discover a hidden inherited belief system that didn’t consider you could both - do what you loved and earn money. Her family system had taught her that you no one does work they are passionate about if they want job security.

In recognising this belief system and where it came from, she was free to do her own research and to consider the unlimited ways in which she could bridge the gap between work and pleasure.

In regards to her tendency to focus and worry about her health, through BodyMind Mapping, a process that brings heightened awareness to the bodies wisdom, our work together has revealed to her the specific unconscious thoughts that she used to repeat over and over in her mind, that literally made her sick. Through a reframing process, she was able to understand for the first time ever, the detrimental impact her own habitual thoughts were having on her body.

She was shocked that she hadn’t noticed the pain she was causing herself. Now she has enough mental clarity and body awareness that she is able to stop and pivot towards thoughts that make her feel so much better. Since then, she has found a sense of peace and a new healthy relationship with her body.

Since then, Kirsty has been able to learn my strategies that gave her the confidence and clarity to successfully reduce her role from a full time teacher, to a casual one. She is now earning more money than she was before and working fewer hours which has supported her to begin studying to become a Hypnotherapist, a private dream she has held for as long as she can remember.

And now meet Susannah…a 55 year old mother of two, feeling lack lustre and missing her old sense of vitality and purpose. She was struggling with a lack of connection with her teenage daughters and her busy work focused husband. She was feeling unloved, uncared for and believed she was failing at life. She was going to leave her husband in the hopes that her pain would subside.

In our sessions together, I focused on bringing to light, her basic motivation for ‘wanting more’ than what she was currently experiencing as she pushed up against the boundary of her familiar self, and the areas in which she felt unhappy. This takes real courage to admit that you are unhappy or unsatisfied.

We went deep into her familiar belief systems that held extremely harsh and critical judgements about her value and herself as a person. With my support, she was able to hear her own unconscious voice speaking back to her. No wonder she felt such low self-worth- this was the very same voice that her overly critical mother used with her while growing up.

In our work together, Susannah was able to correct her inner thought process to one that really did show the kindness, compassion and love that she deserved as a child and still deserved as an adult, which gave her an inbuilt permission slip to no longer resinate with what made her feel bad about herself.

She had so much fun learning the simple strategies that I custom created for her specific desired outcomes that would retrain her brain and nerve pathways, to build the ability to see, experience and trust the positive aspects of herself and her life, including her hubby.

I then taught her a step by step process that I had her write down and understand with her conscious mind and full awareness, that would teach her to recognise the outdated Negative Nancy program (as she called it) and support her to be able to rise above it and maintain a higher, rational and calm perspective. It went something like this:

“When I get hurt, I get triggered which switches on my inner voice which becomes extremely critical and blames me for any and all situations that don’t feel good. I then feel overwhelmed and get lost and confused with this bullying voice inside my head. I lose my ground and all sense of clarity. Then I move into a deep sense of absolute failure, and convince myself that I should run away, and leave my family as they would be better off without me as I lose the ability to believe that they love me, or that I am worthy of their love.”

By recognising that the feeling or overwhelming sensation to run away is simply playing a part in trying to cope or remedy the overwhelming sense of failure and lack of value, it gives Susannah the ability to stay connected with herself, as she rises above this old program and maintains a loving connection with herself and her family that she cares so much about.

Not every feeling we have is meant to be followed if it is stemming from an unconscious outdated belief system, that isn’t even our own.

My client had become conditioned to run this program by a mother who, for her own reasons, and doing the best she could, used an overly critical voice with her daughter that over time, her daughter, my client, began mimicking herself. And yet her greatest pain from childhood, was receiving her mother’s criticism and what she desired above all else was to be cared for with soft and loving words. What a relief for her to finally be free of such an old, painful pattern. 

And yet, we don’t know what we don’t know. Without a guide manoeuvring through these unclear places inside yourself, it is extremely challenging to become aware of what is actually living just underneath the surface and to transform yourself from under its heaviness.

And moreover, once you do discover the beliefs and programs that are running so much of your daily life, what are you meant to do with them?

Talk about an opportunity too good to miss! Personal transformation is possible for you, right now, today.